In Praise of The Older Woman
Posted on May 28th, 2007 by Yaroslav
Let’s talk Fall - Spring relationships. For anybody who doesn’t know, this means a relationship between an older person and a younger paramour. You could say that any of Jack Nicholson’s more recent flings would fall under this category (ditto Michael Douglas/Catherine Zeta-Jones), but what about an older woman dating a strapping young dude? Of course, if you want to stick to your own generation, that’s fine and dandy (senior dating sites are almost as popular as their typically younger equivalents). But why should Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher have all the fun? Celebrities and financial magnates shouldn’t be the only people dabbling in mixed age dating.
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